This put up seems as a part of our More healthy 2021 collection, during which we observe three WebMD workforce members as they attempt to enhance their well being this 12 months. You possibly can observe their journeys right here.
By Invoice Kimm
Scripting this weblog the previous 2 months has been a unbelievable motivator. Understanding I must write about my progress every week compelled me to be accountable. There was no means I used to be going to permit myself to fail understanding I must admit it right here.
However this weblog wasn’t meant to be everlasting, and now that we’re winding down, I would like to seek out different motivators to maintain me centered. And that’s the place I’ve to watch out.
I dwell with melancholy. And in remedy for my melancholy, I’ve realized I wrestle with perfectionism too (which simply results in extra melancholy). I’m my worst critic. I’m fast to see the place I might need come up quick or failed, and in these conditions, it’s arduous for me to see something optimistic about myself. As you may think about, this self-criticism isn’t very useful once you’re attempting to drop extra pounds and dwell more healthy! So discovering the appropriate motivators is essential for me.
Via remedy, I’m realizing a few of the instruments that I’ve used previously for motivation could have truly been working in opposition to me.
My Apple Watch, my Lose It app — each of those present badges, awards, and encouragement to maintain me centered and on observe. They’re enjoyable to win however may also develop into addictive (and have for me previously). My therapist and I agree I shouldn’t focus solely on these gratifications. They assist, and it’s thrilling to realize them, however they too simply can flip into instruments of measurement, which may give my internal critics one thing to nag me about. So I’ve realized that I can benefit from the badges after they pop-up, however I must keep away from utilizing them as motivation.
One other motivator for me has been watching folks get wholesome, be it on social media or in my circle of buddies. There may be nothing higher than seeing the enjoyment of others who discover success of their journey, and it supplies a lot encouragement and motivation for me. However I’m additionally ridiculously aggressive. And a part of me turns into jealous of their success. Theodore Roosevelt is quoted as saying, “Comparability is the thief of pleasure.” There may be quite a lot of reality to that. The one journey corresponding to mine is mine. As I rejoice their achievements, I additionally have to be cautious to not let the success of others taint the way in which I have a look at how properly I’m doing.
Each of those “motivators” can amplify my melancholy. Once I don’t shut all three rings on my watch, I beat myself up; when a good friend is operating additional and sooner than me, I feel I’m a failure and why trouble anymore. And that self-criticism feeds my melancholy. It results in extra laziness, extra stress consuming, not caring anymore, and a funk that will get more durable and more durable to get out of. Fortunately, I’ve an incredible therapist who has helped me work by these challenges the previous 7 months, and I’ve realized higher handle my ideas. I even have an incredible help system in my household, my buddies, and particularly, my More healthy 2021 teammates Mark and Laura, who’ve taught me a lot on our journey collectively.
Dr. Bruni, WebMD’s Lead Medical Director, instructed me again in January, “You’re investing in your self. That is greater than weight reduction, that is your life!”